THAT DAY HE HIT ME SO MUCH, I WAS SURE I WAS GOING TO DIE! (PART 2)
He had come back from work looking royally pissed and I’d been walking on egg shells trying not to poke the bear. But there was just no escaping it. As was his custom, it started with a slap. I was quiet. Experience had taught me that speaking was a terrible idea, but my silence (which usually saved me from getting more than ten to eleven blows) did not help me. It seemed to infuriate him
even further. He hit me and just kept hitting me. That day, he hit me so much, I was sure I was going to die. Lying on the floor as blow and punch after punch was delivered to my body, I remember thinking this is it. This is the day that I die. All I could think of was my kids and who would take care of them. It’s all I’ve been thinking of these five years. I don’t know how I got up. There were neighbours, lots of noise, and everything was just hazy. And just like that, I was running. And even in my state of distraught, a part of me realized how absurd I must look to passers-by. Who am I? I am domestic violence.
Almost every day, we hear a story about how a woman was beaten to death by her husband. Or nearly beaten to death by her husband, or in the hospital in critical condition from the injuries she suffered while being beaten by her husband. These are the gory stories. The good ones (if you can call it that) involve women that finally mustered the courage to leave their abusive husbands/boyfriends after months/years of quietly taking the abuse. When we hear these stories, we ask ourselves; why didn’t she leave him before it was too late? Why didn’t she leave sooner? Why did she stay at all? And frankly, no domestic violence survivor has been able to give a satisfactory answer. Some of them tell you it was love. Some say they had nowhere to run to, others were just too afraid and some stayed for their kids. All are good reasons but none is sufficient enough.
LADIES!!! Listen up. (This applies to women too). While we are still trying to teach the male species that there is no world/ circumstance where hitting a woman is ok, we know this for sure. Domestic violence is real. And it doesn’t start over night (except in the case of juju Lol). There are warning signs. Some of them as tiny as a mustard seed and others as large as a mango tree. DO NOT ignore them. If you allow someone hit you (no matter how little) you have given them the license to buy and nail your coffin. Domestic violence almost always starts with emotional abuse before physical abuse. He doesn’t have to hit you for it to be abuse. He can degrade, blame, manipulate, humiliate or try to control you. It’s still domestic violence. Don’t be with someone who tells that you are not good enough or that you will never be. Because you stay with someone like that and you start to believe it. They get that kind of power over you and there’s nothing they wouldn’t do to you. And what’s worse, you will let them. YOU DESERVE BETTER. No matter whom you are and no matter what you have done in the past, you do not deserve to be with someone that hurts you that way. Don’t let anybody tell you any different.
If you are already in a violent relationship, walk away. Stop thinking about the shame. Stop thinking about what people will say. People will say a lot worse when you’re dead and you wouldn’t be able to do anything about it then. Just leave.... You will be fine. You will pick up the pieces of your life. It will be hard but you will do it. Don’t stay because of your kids. You are doing them no good. Your son should not have to grow up thinking that it is ok to hit a woman, or that he is less of a man, because he couldn’t do anything to stop his father. Your daughter shouldn’t grow up with crappy self-esteem, thinking women are punching bags. Please leave.... If it is the love, remember that is crazy to love someone who hurts you, but it’s crazier to think that someone who hurts you, loves you. You need to leave.
If you already got the courage to walk away, we are happy for you and we are proud of you. But remember, don’t let ‘I miss you’ trick you. Don’t let ‘I’m sorry’ make u think about walking back into that party. The longer you dance with the devil, the longer you remain in hell. Don’t be ashamed of your story. It will inspire someone else to leave. Sometimes, giving a second chance is like giving them an extra bullet for their gun because they missed you the first time.
SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!!❌
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even further. He hit me and just kept hitting me. That day, he hit me so much, I was sure I was going to die. Lying on the floor as blow and punch after punch was delivered to my body, I remember thinking this is it. This is the day that I die. All I could think of was my kids and who would take care of them. It’s all I’ve been thinking of these five years. I don’t know how I got up. There were neighbours, lots of noise, and everything was just hazy. And just like that, I was running. And even in my state of distraught, a part of me realized how absurd I must look to passers-by. Who am I? I am domestic violence.
Almost every day, we hear a story about how a woman was beaten to death by her husband. Or nearly beaten to death by her husband, or in the hospital in critical condition from the injuries she suffered while being beaten by her husband. These are the gory stories. The good ones (if you can call it that) involve women that finally mustered the courage to leave their abusive husbands/boyfriends after months/years of quietly taking the abuse. When we hear these stories, we ask ourselves; why didn’t she leave him before it was too late? Why didn’t she leave sooner? Why did she stay at all? And frankly, no domestic violence survivor has been able to give a satisfactory answer. Some of them tell you it was love. Some say they had nowhere to run to, others were just too afraid and some stayed for their kids. All are good reasons but none is sufficient enough.
LADIES!!! Listen up. (This applies to women too). While we are still trying to teach the male species that there is no world/ circumstance where hitting a woman is ok, we know this for sure. Domestic violence is real. And it doesn’t start over night (except in the case of juju Lol). There are warning signs. Some of them as tiny as a mustard seed and others as large as a mango tree. DO NOT ignore them. If you allow someone hit you (no matter how little) you have given them the license to buy and nail your coffin. Domestic violence almost always starts with emotional abuse before physical abuse. He doesn’t have to hit you for it to be abuse. He can degrade, blame, manipulate, humiliate or try to control you. It’s still domestic violence. Don’t be with someone who tells that you are not good enough or that you will never be. Because you stay with someone like that and you start to believe it. They get that kind of power over you and there’s nothing they wouldn’t do to you. And what’s worse, you will let them. YOU DESERVE BETTER. No matter whom you are and no matter what you have done in the past, you do not deserve to be with someone that hurts you that way. Don’t let anybody tell you any different.
If you are already in a violent relationship, walk away. Stop thinking about the shame. Stop thinking about what people will say. People will say a lot worse when you’re dead and you wouldn’t be able to do anything about it then. Just leave.... You will be fine. You will pick up the pieces of your life. It will be hard but you will do it. Don’t stay because of your kids. You are doing them no good. Your son should not have to grow up thinking that it is ok to hit a woman, or that he is less of a man, because he couldn’t do anything to stop his father. Your daughter shouldn’t grow up with crappy self-esteem, thinking women are punching bags. Please leave.... If it is the love, remember that is crazy to love someone who hurts you, but it’s crazier to think that someone who hurts you, loves you. You need to leave.
If you already got the courage to walk away, we are happy for you and we are proud of you. But remember, don’t let ‘I miss you’ trick you. Don’t let ‘I’m sorry’ make u think about walking back into that party. The longer you dance with the devil, the longer you remain in hell. Don’t be ashamed of your story. It will inspire someone else to leave. Sometimes, giving a second chance is like giving them an extra bullet for their gun because they missed you the first time.
SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!!❌
Oh Lord! Save my future wife from domestic violence
ReplyDeleteDomestic violence is so real. People keepnlimiting it to physical abuse but it transcends that. Emotional and verbal abuse are also forms of domestic violence.
ReplyDeleteYh say no
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